It's okay to guard your kids and protect them from harm from birth to 18 years old. But once your child turns 18 it is time to let them go. I have studied children that are the VICTIMS of overprotective mothers. Having an overprotective mother is form of child abuse. Usually the mother controls every aspect of the child well into his adult life. Usually the mother has the child believe that they are sick of have some sort of disease so that the child actually thinks that they are too weak to depend on themselves.